Family gatherings, whether during holidays, the festive season, birthdays, or other milestones, provide invaluable opportunities to check in with elderly loved ones and friends. It is often during these moments that we may notice subtle but important changes in their behavior or abilities—signs that they might need extra help.
Recognising the Signs
During conversations, many older relatives will reassure us that they are "doing well," not wanting to burden anyone with concerns about their health or well being. As family members, it is essential to look attentively for changes that indicate an aging loved one may require assistance. Here are some examples to watch for:
Missed Appointments: Regular health check-ups in particular are vital and if these are being missed, your loved one may not be receiving the care they need.
Forgetting to Take Medications: Medication management is crucial, particularly for serious underlying medical conditions. If pills are being missed, there may be a need for additional support.
Household Safety Issues: Leaving appliances on or doors unlocked can pose serious safety risks.
Neglected Home Environment: An unkept house or garden can reflect both physical and emotional struggles with daily tasks.
Loss of Interest in Hobbies: If someone used to enjoy gardening but has suddenly stopped, it may signify emotional or physical difficulties that require attention.
Car Accidents or Dents: An increase in minor accidents can be a red flag for declining motor skills or attention while driving.
Empty Fridge / Weight Loss: An empty fridge often indicates a lack of food, which could suggest challenges with shopping or preparing meals, something many aging adults struggle with. Statistics indicate that up to 25% of seniors experience inadequate nutrition.
Changes in Mood or Behavior: Noticeable changes in emotional state, such as increased sadness or withdrawal, can indicate longer-term issues of depression that often go untreated in this population.
How You Can Support Them with Aged Care
If you notice these changes in a loved one, approach the situation with care and kindness. Start the conversation in a quiet, comfortable environment. Begin by asking open questions to understand their feelings and concerns about receiving help. It may also be helpful to involve other family members and ease any pressure they might feel about seeking assistance.
Planning ahead can make a significant difference. Discussing potential care needs and practical solutions can create a smoother transition. This way, the topic of care does not come as a shock but becomes a natural part of the conversation.
Practical Steps to Take
Open a Dialogue: Talk honestly about your concerns. Frame the discussion positively, emphasising their well-being and how your support can enhance their quality of life.
Encourage Professional Help: Consider engaging an aged care specialist to assist with the conversations.
Plan Regular Check-Ins: Establish a routine to visit or call your loved one. Regular contact helps maintain emotional connection and offers ongoing support.
Navigating Emotional Challenges
Discussing care with an aging loved one can be an emotionally charged experience. It's essential to be empathetic and patient, acknowledging that this conversation can trigger fears about loss of independence. A supportive atmosphere where they feel safe to express their feelings can ease this transition.
Consider involving an experienced, impartial third party during family discussions. This person can guide the conversation, provide unbiased support, and help everyone make informed decisions without added pressure.
How We Can Help
Navigating the emotional challenges surrounding care can be difficult. Recognising the early signs when an aging loved one needs help is important for planning ahead, funding care and gaining access to the care and support required.
We are here to guide you through the process, ensuring all voices are heard and that decisions are made with confidence. Remember, you are not alone in this journey; contact us today.
